Escape to myself

Escape to myself

Travelling to reconnect

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  • Catalyst

    Catalyst

    2022 has been a strange year; my life pivoted in July when I hit an age I never imagined I could be; 70! Then I encountered a much younger man and became madly infatuated with him. He was beautiful, sensitive and so open emotionally. At 70 I never expected such an intense sexual relationship. Older…

    thegaywidower

    February 18, 2023
    The consequences of travel
    anxiety, courage, discovery, gay, infatuation, life change, passion, serendipity, solo, the extraordinary, travel
  • My month in Florence

    This has been a wonderful month and what I have learned is how exceptional people, particularly the young on the threshold of the new, can be. My “classmates ” took me to their hearts and I have made so many chance encounters with random strangers who were open to friendship and discussion on every aspect…

    thegaywidower

    December 4, 2025
    The consequences of travel
  • Orvieto, Lucca e Firenze … a catch up

    Last Sunday I visited the charming hilltop town of Orvieto. It was pleasant to wander around the flea market and the shops. The Cathedral is really lovely and the town is quaint with many little backstreets. This week I enjoyed my classes and went out with my new friends most days. I also visited an…

    thegaywidower

    November 23, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    Italy, Lucca, Oltrano, Orvieto, travel, Zeffirelli
  • Bellissima Monteriggioni

    Today I took a bus ride through the lovely Tuscan countryside to this perfect little hilltop town. Set amidst olive groves, vineyards and rolling green hills it is difficult to describe its qualities. The walls were constructed in the 1220s and the town was a defensive stronghold for the Republic of Siena against its perpetual…

    thegaywidower

    November 15, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    discovery, Monteriggioni, travel, Tuscany, via Francigena
  • Stibbert Museum Florence

    After completing an excellent week of classes this afternoon I took a long walk to the hills outside Florence and the Stibbert Museum. Beautiful views of the city and a lovely garden. The museum was created by a wealthy English man and donated to the city of Florence at his death. This is the fruit…

    thegaywidower

    November 14, 2025
    The consequences of travel
  • My home in Florence for a month

    thegaywidower

    November 10, 2025
    The consequences of travel
  • Exploring the beauty of Nice in autumn

    I arrived in a sunny and warm Nice … today is overcast but still pleasant. I took a walk to two museums epitomising French Post Impressionism… Musee Matisse and Musee Chagall. Both wonderful; Matisse exhibiting his joy and exuberant line and colour; Chagall his deep spirituality and symbolic engagement with his inner world. I enjoyed…

    thegaywidower

    November 7, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    chagall, Matisse, Nice, post Impressionism
  • Theatre Picasso Exhibition at Tate Modern

    Although not a favourite of mine I admire his inventiveness, imaginative qualities, curiosity and eclecticism and this was a fascinating exhibition bringing to the public gaze the Tate’s collection of the most significant painting and drawings by the artist in the collection and exploring performance and ambiguity in Picasso’s work. Looking at the spectrum of…

    thegaywidower

    September 19, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    abstract art, art, culture, Picasso, Richard Long, Rothko, Tate Modern
  • Dungeness and Derek Jarman’s cottage

    Derek created his wonderful garden on the shingle at Dungeness. He was s great director of queer cinema, queer activist as well as an artist and poet. Dungeness can be wild and desolate in winter but balmy on a sunny day. The cottage, once a fisherman’s hut is one of many now renovated as rather…

    thegaywidower

    August 14, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    Derek Jarman, Dungeness
  • A birthday trip to Great Dixter Sussex

    One of my favourite gardens: wild, overflowing borders full of hot colours, little pathways, archways and topiary. A wonderful collection of rare and beautiful perennials and shrubs in an anarchic arrangement set against the backdrop of a wonderful Wealden house remodelled by Lutyens. The creation of the talented Christopher Lloyd.

    thegaywidower

    July 29, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    gardens, Great Dixter
  • RA Summer Show 2025

    Kate and I took our usual annual visit to the RA. We usually have a great time and this year was no exception. We’re pretty sceptical and often play “zeitgeist bingo” which entails choosing a few themes we think will be well represented. This year it was “sheds”, “urban decay”, and “animals”. We were pretty…

    thegaywidower

    July 11, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    art, Modern Art, Royal Academy 2025
  • An afternoon with Bloomsbury

    Charleston Farmhouse was, from 1916, the hub and retreat of the Bloomsbury Group where artists Vanessa and Clive Bell and Duncan Grant entertained a glittering array of artists and intellectuals: Roger Fry who championed Post Impressionism in the UK, Lytton Strachey, economist Maynard Keynes, E.M Forster, Dora Carrington and Vanessa’s sister Virginia Woolf in a…

    thegaywidower

    June 5, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    Bloomsbury Group, Charleston, Duncan Grant, Post-Impressionist, Vanessa Bell
  • A wonderful journey

    thegaywidower

    May 16, 2025
    The consequences of travel
  • Leaving Florence … home tomorrow… trains and boats and buses … no planes

    Well my journey is close to the finish! Two months, 10 countries, 25 towns and cities , many new friends and 1000 experiences. I have spent two days here in Florence visiting old haunts and old friends. Now I’m waiting to get my train to Milan where tomorrow I hope to start my one day…

    thegaywidower

    May 13, 2025
    The consequences of travel
  • Back in Rome … speeding home

    A pleasant train journey through Puglia to Rome and a hostel I stayed in a couple if years ago; it’s still great. Expensive (I could stay a week in Albania fir the same price) but it’s Rome and worth it. Of course it’s busy here, it’s a Jubilee year and a new pope too so…

    thegaywidower

    May 10, 2025
    The consequences of travel
  • Bari

    I arrived in Bari yesterday morning after a peaceful overnight crossing on the ferry. Arriving in Bari was not so straightforward as just as I reached passport control the system went down so I had to wait an hour before they approved manual entry. Schengen were waved through but I needed my passport stamped for…

    thegaywidower

    May 10, 2025
    The consequences of travel
  • The villa of King Zog at Durres … disintegrating dreams

    This was a haunting place. Built by King Zog, short–lived king of Albania in the 30s, as a place for receptions and as a summer retreat he only enjoyed it for a year before he was deposed. Walking through the derelict rooms echoes of the interwar years whispered of cocktails, jazz, parties, intrigue and politics.…

    thegaywidower

    May 7, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    Albania, architecture, Durres, travel, Zog I
  • Durres … a seaside town and Albanian politics

    I arrived in Durres this morning having ditched bus and train travel … there are no trains and after six weeks the buses with a rucksack were too complicated … so a cheap taxi! Durres is a port city and with its spacious city square and palm trees seems, at first sight, more cosmopolitan than…

    thegaywidower

    May 6, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    Albania, Durres, solo, travel
  • Tirana … old and new

    The contrast between Ohrid and here couldn’t be greater. Ohrid: charm, the lake, calm. Tirana: noisy, intense, and impenetrable. A city of crumbling buildings against the modern civic area of Government departments where new high rises go up apace … there is some good modern architecture. My arrival was not without trauma. My hostel no…

    thegaywidower

    May 5, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    Albania, solo, Tirana, travel
  • Ohrid … a discovery

    It surprises me continuously that there are so many unexpected and hidden beauties in what at first sight appear to be nondescript countries. Ohrid is one such. Macedonia, mountainous and often overlooked suddenly reveals a totally different character here. Sunny, expressive, glittering. This morning I went out early, both to escape the crowds and the…

    thegaywidower

    May 3, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    North Macedonia, Ohrid, solo, travel, UNESCO World Heritage
  • Walking in Skopje

    I’ve just taken a long walk through the city. Now I’m sitting in a cafe with coffee and baklava pretentiously reading L’Etranger. But in fact I don’t feel pretentious; rather I feel a little as if I’m finding more of myself. I’ve come to Camus a little late in life but he seems to be…

    thegaywidower

    May 1, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    Camus, North Macedonia, Skopje, solo, travel
  • Skopje: boats, caves, cable cars,views

    I arrived in Skopje yesterday evening. The hostel is charming, family run and an enjoyable waik away from the city centre, lying in the hills with tree lined streets and a pleasant garden. After a good nights sleep I decided on a tour to some of the sights out of town so I took the…

    thegaywidower

    April 30, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    Matka, North Macedonia, Skopje, solo, travel
  • The last of Thessaloniki

    It’s still and quiet here in the monastery courtyard. A dog barks, swallows wheel above; peacocks scream and doves murmur; a cat passes. time to reflect, contemplate and meditate. Now to make my way North and home.

    thegaywidower

    April 29, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    Greece, solo, Thessaloniki, travel
  • Morning thoughts

    Sitting on the terrace this morning listening to swallows and squabbling crows in the sun and thinking aboout my next destination I realise how fortunate I am to be able to do this. The places I have seen that I never imagined I would encounter and the people I’ve met are something I won’t forget.…

    thegaywidower

    April 29, 2025
    The consequences of travel
  • Meteora… an incredible experience

    Today was something I will never forget. These photos will not do Meteora justice. A three hour drive took us past a snow-capped Mount Olympus to Meteora in Central Greece. Home to 24 monasteries built on vertiginous precipices in the remote region of Meteora. In greek it means “between the earth and the sky”. Isolated…

    thegaywidower

    April 28, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    Greece, Meteora, Monasteries, Roussanou, solo, travel, UNESCO World Heritage, Varlaam
  • Thessaloniki … Cats, churches, monks and monasteries

    So today I was out early in my usual search for coffee. Success; not Starbucks. I was on a mission to visit as many of the Byzantine churches included in the UNESCO list for Thessaloniki. I managed nine of the 14. They are rather wonderful. They date from the fourth to the fourteenth centuries and…

    thegaywidower

    April 27, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    Byzantine, Greece, solo, Thessaloniki, travel, UNESCO World Heritage
  • Roman remains and Ottoman merchants

    Another sunny day in this always surprising town. I realised I had only seen half of the Roman architecture it had to offer. So off I went to get my fill of culture. The bishops basilica was sadly closed but nothing daunted I went to see the small one. The authorities here know how to…

    thegaywidower

    April 25, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    architecture, Bulgaria, Ottoman Baroque, Plovdiv, solo, travel
  • Plovdiv … Ottoman houses and the remains of Philippopolis

    Another great day with visits to more Roman sites with Volcan. Plovdiv was anciently settled in neolithic times but the Roman occupation began in the first century when the city was called Philippopolis. There are remains of the stadium(some under the local H&M!), the forum, the East Gate and the beautiful amphitheatre. Despite my fear…

    thegaywidower

    April 24, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    Bulgaria, Klianti House, Philippopolis, Plivdov, solo, travel
  • What’s great about Plovdiv?

    I arrived here by minivan this morning. An easy trip which dropped me five minutes from this fabulous hostel in a mid nineteenth century listed house right in the centre of the old town. The room is beautiful and I have an antique bed with painted headboard … I feel like a king or a…

    thegaywidower

    April 23, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    Bulgaria, Plovdiv, solo, travel
  • Long days journey into night … and day … Sofia

    Well I arrived in Sofia after a gruelling six hour overnight bus ride, I’ve been awake for 30 hours. Now I’m in the hostel but I arrived 5.30am and couldn’t register until 2.00 pm. I left my bags and toured the city for breakfast, being Easter Monday not much was open so was left with…

    thegaywidower

    April 21, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    Bulgaria, Sofia, solo, travel
  • Bucharest … a day of revelation

    This has been an amazing day … two day trips exploring Bucharest’s turbulent past and its effect on the city and its development from medieval times to the present. My guides are passionate about their city and unflinching in exploring it with us. A trip through Bucharest’s history This mornings guide was Stefan who lead…

    thegaywidower

    April 18, 2025
    The consequences of travel
    architecture, Bucharest, Romania, solo, travel
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